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Navigating Neurodiversity: A Guide for Mothers

Understanding and supporting neurodivergent children is a journey filled with empathy, patience, and a deep desire to nurture their unique abilities. Perhaps you've come across the term "neurodivergence," but what does it truly mean for your child? How can you provide the best support for a child who is neurodivergent? Research suggests that 15 to 20% of the population falls under the neurodivergent spectrum. While there's no one-size-fits-all experience for neurodivergent children, subtle signs often emerge through their behaviour, urging us to delve deeper into their world. As our awareness of neurodiversity grows, it becomes not just important but essential to not only accept but also understand its intricacies.

Understanding Neurodivergence:


Neurodivergence serves as an umbrella term encompassing individuals whose brain functions, processes, behaviours, and learning styles differ from what is generally deemed “typical.” While historically viewed as an “abnormality” or a problem necessitating fixing, mental health professionals are shifting toward an affirming model. This shift focuses on recognising and nurturing the unique strengths associated with neurodivergence, while also addressing any challenges or disabilities that may arise due to atypical brain functions.

Diverse Neurodivergent Conditions

Neurodivergence encompasses a myriad of conditions, including Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder (ADHD), autism spectrum, synesthesia, Tourette’s Syndrome, learning differences such as dyslexia and dyscalculia, and Down syndrome. Chronic mental health illnesses such as bipolar disorder, obsessive-compulsive disorder, borderline personality disorder, anxiety, and depression can also be considered under the neurodivergence spectrum. Each condition presents a unique set of traits, strengths, and challenges, underscoring a distinctive cognitive processing style rather than a deficit.

Recognising Neurodivergence in Children

How do you know if your child is neurodivergent? It often starts with noticing differences in your child's learning styles, communication approaches, emotional expressions, or unique methods of processing emotions. These subtle cues signify that your child's brain functions in a manner that is distinct for a child their age and stage of development. Trusting your instincts and seeking professional guidance if you suspect developmental concerns are crucial. Consulting specialists such as developmental behavioural paediatricians, psychologists, or neurologists can provide valuable insights and personalized support tailored to your child's unique needs.

Here are some signs you can recognise for common neurodivergent conditions:


Autism spectrum disorder presents a range of signs, typically falling into these categories:

  • Social interaction: Difficulty connecting with others or interpreting social cues.

  • Specific interests: Strong focus on particular subjects or activities.

  • Repetitive behaviours: Engaging in repetitive movements or adhering strictly to routines.

  • Sensory differences: Easily becoming overwhelmed by sensory stimuli such as sounds, lights, or textures.


ADHD is characterized by challenges in attention, hyperactivity, and impulsivity. Signs in a neurodivergent child with ADHD may include:

  • Inattentiveness or forgetfulness.

  • Difficulty concentrating.

  • Persistent high energy levels.

  • Restlessness or a dislike for sedentary activities.

  • Excessive talking.

  • Impulsive actions without considering consequences.


Dyslexia, a common learning disorder, affects reading, writing, and learning processes. Signs in a neurodivergent child with dyslexia can include:

  • Difficulty comprehending written material.

  • Repeated reading without grasping the content.

  • Struggles with schoolwork compared to peers.

  • Behavioural issues at school due to academic challenges.

  • Avoiding school-related tasks.

Supporting your neurodivergent child 

Supporting your neurodivergent child involves embracing their uniqueness, advocating for their needs, and creating environments that foster their growth and well-being. Here are some ways you can begin to care for your child. 

Embrace a Neuro-Affirming Care Model

Neurodivergent children benefit from a neuro-affirming caregiving approach, which involves:

  • Accepting diverse brain wiring.

  • Meeting children at their level.

  • Adjusting expectations based on their skills.

  • Using their interests to foster new skills.

This approach focuses on accommodating their needs rather than forcing them into a neurotypical framework.

Normalise Their Experience

Move away from deficit-based treatment approaches that view neurodivergence as a problem. Instead, focus on understanding and accepting each child's unique identity and interests. Recognise that every neurodivergent child is different, and there's no need to "fix" them. Embrace their diversity and support their individuality positively.

Stay Informed and Utilize Resources

Engage in meaningful conversations with your child to understand their experiences and needs. Stay updated on resources to support neurodiversity, including:

  • Individualized education plans for school support.

  • Learning from disabled-led perspectives.

  • Advocating against neurodivergent stigma.

  • Exploring effective accommodations from reliable sources.

Consider Therapy

In addition to medical professionals, consider therapy for personalized sensory regulation strategies and sensory diets. These approaches cater to individual family needs and support children in understanding and managing their behaviours effectively.

Build Community Support

Families benefit from community support. You can cultivate community through:

  • Social media groups focused on neurodiversity.

  • Participation in conferences and support groups.

  • Hiring advocates or support persons for meetings and appointments to ensure appropriate support for your child.


As mothers, embracing neurodiversity means nurturing a world where every child's unique abilities are celebrated and supported. By understanding, advocating, and creating inclusive environments, we pave the way for our neurodivergent children to thrive and contribute their exceptional gifts to society. Together, let's embark on this compassionate journey of acceptance and empowerment.

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Disclaimer: The information provided in this blog post is for educational purposes only and is not intended to serve as a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. While I am an experienced educator, I am not qualified to provide medical diagnoses or clinical assessments. If you suspect that your child may be neurodiverse, I strongly encourage you to seek the guidance of a licensed healthcare professional or a qualified clinical psychologist who can provide the appropriate support and diagnosis. By sharing my experiences and insights, I hope to provide support and understanding for parents navigating the challenges and joys of raising neurodiverse children. 

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